There are tons of piece out there which talk about the concept of mindset. But I want to write a small note here to share how this mindset thing has become a topic for me for the last 2 days.
It was Thursday and I had an interview with someone that important for the company (the circumstances needs to be undisclosed). There were two interviewers, they asked about what I do for the company. One of the guys was quite sharp. It only took him several minutes to hit me with a strong hook from the left and a well-aimed right straight to the face. I’ll spare you the details. What he said was I “don’t have the right mindset.”
But he was quite right. Accidentally. I couldn’t say the conversation flow was going systematically and of course it’s not in my favor. We were talking about different thing and we hadn’t finished yet. His concern was answered in the end, after the one-two punch unfortunately, and I knew that I’d been doing a right thing after all. But despite all that, he made that statement anyway and somehow he made me realize about that other thing that lurks in the dark side. It’s there, and it’s been bugging me, and that is the incorrect mindset of chilidish and giving a shit.
No matter how strong I am at making strategy, that mindset dispells any perfection. No matter how hard I try to deliver every task, that mindset reduces every attempt from reaching 100%.
The first stupid thing that I have in mind is that I live in a safety, supporting world, filled with surprising bonus and hundred of helping hand along the road. Just like a child, protected by parents and usually supported to have an easy life. It might be true, very true, I believe so. I’m confident I can easily survive this world. But this very mindset is a growth killer.
It’s just like when you swim with a tube. You can go anywhere deep and even though you feel anxious, you know you won’t get drown because you have the tube. So you try to swim, you put the motion that you learn at Youtube in practice. You train for like 2 hours and by the end of the session you feel very satisfied, thinking that you’re progressing and you’re awesome because you were floating.
Compare this with someone who trains to swim without any tube. This guy just jumps into the pool and suddenly drowning then he tried everything that he can to go to the surface. His theory doesn’t work, it’s hidden somewhere, instinct takes over. At the end, he grasps the edge of the pool for help. But after that he tried again, trying to put the theory into practice. Now with modification, adjusting to what he thinks he needs in his current condition. He tried that couples of time for 2 hours.
So, between the two swimming apprentice, who do you think will master the swim first?
Both of them will probably learn to swim eventually. But the first apprentice spent 2 hours with so much help and trained within an ideal condition, safe from the harsh reality of gravitation and massa jenis. And the second apprentice spent 2 hours learning all the truth and memorize it with his mind and his body. Of course the second one will learn faster, theoretically.
That’s the same if you have that mindset of safety haven just like a child. You put yourself safe from the truth and you’re satisfied with a small achievement. You excuse yourself in every of your mistake. You blame others. You just want to do something fun. You only want to stick with your ideal of happiness and allergic to ambitious rival. You think that you’re better, you’re the best, while never realize that you just better among your group but not among your professional peers outside your zone. You kill your potential mercilessly.
Giving a Shit
I’ve been known as a very sensitive person. While being sensitive, I also arrogant and rude. It’s a vicious cycle, you know. You make people hate you, then you questioned why they hate you. Then you overthink, you know you’ve been good to them and being sincere. Then you accidentally poke another people again, they somehow hate you, you’re angry because they hate you, and you poke them again, you feel offended again, hate again. All in a circle. Sooo frustrating.
It’s not easy to escape the cycle and you basically can start anywhere to fix it. You can fix the arrogant part first. Or you can amplify the sincere part. Or you can just goddamn close the sensitive part.
Or. You can just stop giving a shit. Giving a shit on how you should react. Giving a shit about how people would think. Giving a shit about how you’re gonna get hurt and disappointed.
This is a fucking company. A billion rupiah company seeing a trillion number on the horizon. It’s about the livelihood of billions of people. It’s about you making a contribution to the world. It’s about how you spend your youth that gonna leave you in a couple of years. And it’s about piling some blessings to give a special place for your family in heaven. Working is praying for God’s sake! You work hoping to gain the ridho of God!
So stop giving too much shit. Stop thinking that you might get hurt and stop hoping in people. It’s not about you can do it or not. IT’S ABOUT YOU HAVE TO DO IT OR JUST FUCKING RESIGN AND GO TO SLEEP. It’s not about they’re gonna respect you or not, being too careful and not making any achievement will make them look down on you anyway. So it’s better to just blaze through and make something rather than walking slow but showing weakness and make them piss on you.
Stop waiting, make it happen. Stop giving a shit to other people and give yourself nothing. Stop doing something without hoping for something in return.